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A lot of people have accused you that you don’t really love S, and that you are just using her for selfish motives. D, E and most of S’s friends are convinced that you are just after her money. But you see, not even S’s closest friends can convince her to let you go. I was among those who were totally against your relationship with S because in the first place, you are married and with kids. And I am still convincing her to forget you and drop you like a hot potato because of this reason. But you see, I’m just a friend and S is so blinded with her love for you. I have constantly reminded her of the consequences of a complicated relationship. You have hurt her a lot, and I have witnessed her cry many times because of your actions and inactions. A lot of S’s friendships were strained because of you.

Nevertheless, I know that you are not after S’s money. I always believed that your love for S is true (and yes, I am convinced that your love for S is more than your love for your wife). And I am not to judge whether what you are doing is right or wrong. I may not understand the situation but I understand and respect both of you as human beings, most especially as my friends. I fear for both of you. I am confused myself because in the first place I am not the type who will tolerate such an affair but I am not the first one to stop both of you to pursue each of your personal happiness. I give up. You two are adults, and both of you should know better.

I know how your two girls demand, and it’s really difficult to really choose. If you leave S, it’s the end of the world. If you leave your wife, hell will break loose. I know you feel like dying already, and I know that what keeps you going are your kids.

R, in any decision you do always decide in favor of the kids because more than a lover to your women, you are a father to your children. As father, would you want them to end up with bitter feelings for you? Your wife is still the mother of your kids, S can never replace her. But S loves you so much and she has extended this to your children (except for your wife of course, who continuously harasses S, which is also understandable). I won’t blame you if you decide in favor of S. Your wife has not been a pleasant person in the first place. And I know that this is your reason why you took in S as your other woman.

On the other hand, if you cannot be a spouse to your wife, at least, be a father to your children. The future lives of your children are at stake.

At the end of the day, it’s still your decision. You may or may not tell me directly your final answer. I know you are the type who does not want to be dictated upon. Just give me a sign if you have chosen your wife so I may know what to do with S, and how we can help her. But if you have chosen S, please do your best to protect her.

I am praying for both of you.